Outraged gaslighting: How to sidestep blame and make others feel crazy

As accountability avoidance strategies go, gaslighting is remarkably flexible and effective. For those with the chutzpah to pull it off, it’s a pretty straightforward maneuver. Let’s say you get called out for dissembling, intentional misdirection or an outright lie. Gaslighting allows you to immediately deflect scrutiny and turn it back onto the aggrieved plaintiff: “I […]

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Sexism draped in prayer beads: Spiritual shaming as a silencing tool in terrifying times

I once had a colleague who could be blunt as a barbell, direct as a laser beam, and unblinking as an ancient tortoise. A middle-aged white woman, she eschewed the feminine niceties required to earn her likability badge in the gendered game of social, political, and spiritual acceptability. She didn’t smile self-effacingly. She didn’t half […]

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